We are all working to be balanced and being balanced is always a blend of negative and positive—Yen and Yang—right and left.
There is nothing wrong with the movement to arrive at balance. Moving in and out of the action of balancing is really a sign of growth and life.
There are many opportunities in our lives that require a time of “unbalance” or some aspect of discomfort. This discomfort may be physical, psychological or spiritual. Each stage of our life may include experiences of loss and grief.
We lose jobs, friends, loved ones and a myriad of other meaningful realities.
The possibilities for us as humans can be limitless, however there are times when a helping ear, an insight, or a bit of guidance can bring us into more ease and hope as we arrive at balance.
Simply, life is a wonder filled process that sometimes feels too difficult for the skills we seem to have.
Counseling can be a great help as we struggle, at times, to get to progress and balance.
Although there are groups in which counseling clients fall, we often find within the stages of life and their multifaceted realities the triggers that evoke a need for counseling. Here are some of these stages and their addendum components:
This stage is one of my specialties. Working with teens in their variable growth issues is something I have been doing for years. Trusting them and challenging them especially in conjunction with their families is foundational to my approach with teens. Teen years can be a time of sensitivity to many aspects of life especially in regard to spirituality. Today’s teens are bombarded by drugs, sex, competitions in sports, academics and peer pressure. Suicidal ideation, cutting, anorexia are just a few of the things teens struggle with. Today’s family may be a blended family, have a single parent, or a custodial (ex: a grand-parent) arrangement. Teens are often dealing with a new mom/dad as a stepparent as well as new “step-siblings”.
The Young Adult:
The young adult, either prior to getting out of college or into the work force, may be facing added pressure to achieve what seems to be an elusive measure of success. The young adult is moving into the adult world or may already be there, but is doing a balancing act between work, loves, dating, and the same struggles of their teen years i.e. sex, drugs, and multiple forms of competition.
The social expectation is often loaded with “you’re grown now” messages and yet there are many times when a young adult needs help in processing the demands of this stage.
A counselor can be especially helpful in sorting out the implications of the choices being made by the young adult.
This stage is the one in which most of us spend most of the years of our lives. For many this stage starts with driving a car but some would say 21 is the measure of adulthood. Actually, adulthood may only occur many years later when one is personally responsible for family or work. Obviously, moving out of adolescence can take many years. In adult life we encounter the years of marrying, childbearing, divorcing and all that these realities entail. These are the years in which some people find life partners, adopt or have surrogate children. These chosen relationships and families may break up like the divorces of married people. No matter what your sexual orientation, there are many times when an understanding counselor is of great benefit.
Aging In Adult Life:
Not only do we all age; we are often responsible for our parents’ aging process. As we all live longer the issues of adult children caring for their aging parents are very frequent. Alzheimer’s, Parkinson’s, strokes, Cancer and other end of life realties are difficult and sometimes devastating to those who care for parents or other loved ones with these maladies.
Another facet of aging is the slow aging of each individual. Almost surprising us, we all are aging and losing something we thought we would always have i.e. health, youth, movement and even hope.
Issues of loss and grief often characterize our adult lives causing us to feel out of balance in the very essence of our beings.
Even in traditional families there are issues that concern children and teens in relation to other members of their family that can be aided by the intervention of a counselor. Although any one member of a family may be the apparent “reason” for counseling, the family is a system that has gotten out of balance and all the members are part of this system and need to be part of the process.